What is therapy all about, anyways?


Do you go to therapy when you are in a major mental health or life crisis?


A therapist can definitely be helpful when you are in a state of crisis or emergency. But, what about all those times in between, where you know you have u finished, underlying issues that haven't been addressed but are lying dormant?


The more we address our underlying issues in therapy at times when we are not in crisis, the less likely we will be to end up in another difficult crisis, and if we do, we will have far better skills with which to handle it.


Therapy can also help us improve our relationships, emotional well-being, self-esteem and overall mood, by helping us change the way we view ourselves and the rest of the world.




As a therapist who works with couples, I have seen my fair share of infidelity struggles. But one thing that always leaves me puzzled is when the unfaithful partner tries to explain to me why it was natural for them to cheat. My response to that is, if cheating is natural, your partner should be able to cheat too, right?


Somehow, their answer is always no.


So where does this double standard come from? Either you commit to a monogamous relationship where there is no cheating, or you commit to an open relationship, where outside relationships are allowed.


The problem at hand here, is that the individual who cheats isn't cheating because they're unhappy in their relationship, they cheat because they are faced with a deficit within themselves and cheating gives them a false sense of fulfillment.


There is a lot more to why people cheat and why they feel entitled to do so, but having a double standard creates an extreme sense of imbalance between a couple, dissolving all trust and respect.


Without trust and respect, there is no foundation for a relationship.

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I am so excited to announce the launch of the Empowered Woman's Journal! ​


This is a very personal project that is near and dear to my heart because it encompasses some of the most important concepts and principles in which I structure my life, as well as help heal and enrich the lives of others.


Journaling is an incredible therapeutic tool that helps process complex thoughts and emotions as well as decreases stress and anxiety levels, increases gratitude and brings about general clarity and relaxation.


The Empowered Woman's Journal is an amazing creation that combines the principles of the Empowered Woman, along with the therapeutic benefits of journaling- I am so excited to share it with you!


This journal is a wonderful addition to your daily self-care routine and it makes a great gift for any special woman in your life.


You can order your copy of the Empowered Woman's Journal here


https://www.amazon.ca/Empowered-Womans-Journal-therapeutic-intentional/dp/B09JF1VCZW/ref=sr_1_1?crid=20JSLC3WGTIY5&keywords=the+empowered+woman%27s+journal&qid=1638223791&sprefix=the+empowered+woman%27s+%2Caps%2C161&sr=8-1

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How would your life be different if you stopped allowing others to dilute or poison your day with their word or opinions?

As a clinician, one of the first principles that I like to establish with my clients is Authenticity. We simply cannot make progress with our emotions, trauma, relationships and with ourselves without being completely real about what we are feeling and what we believe. Although it may be painful and even shameful, we cannot effectively navigate the healing process without first becoming completely real with ourselves and others. When you are honest with yourself and others about who you really are at the core, what opinions you hold, what emotions you are grappling with and what traumas you are still holding onto, you can identify which hurdles need to be worked on, which people and environments are toxic for you and which people and environments are healthy and growth-oriented. Showing other people your true self will bring about greater connection and respect for who you are, leading to more fulfilling relationships in your life. What do you think it means to be authentic?



 

Stop telling women not to give up hope. Sometimes, acceptance is the most peaceful place to be in.


Before I had children, people would tell me not to give up hope. And I didn’t.


Eventually, I was blessed with healthy twin daughters.


But when I tried to have more children, it wasn’t so easy. Failed cycle after failed cycle left me physically and emotionally exhausted, sick, depleted and feeling hopeless.


People kept asking what was happening and telling me not to give up hope!

But all that did was create an environment of pressure, disappointment and emotional unrest.

Eventually, my husband and I realized that while we always wanted more children, I was becoming so drained and depleted that I hardly had any strength or energy to give to the children we already had, who desperately needed their mother!


We came to the realization, that perhaps our dream of having a larger family wasn’t meant to be. As devastating as this was, I was overcome with a sense of relief and peace when I finally laid down my fertility warrior sword.


Sometimes, life will present us with battles that we need to fight, and other times, we must know when to surrender.


The idea of “not giving up hope,” can be motivating and inspiring for those who are still fighting their battle; and it’s great to hold onto hope as a way of keeping you going. But for those who need to surrender and find peace in their place of acceptance, giving up hope can be the best thing we can do for ourselves.

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